In this Washington Post article, we see how a White House aide picked a fight with the First Lady and lost. What is being downplayed by the media is the open secret that the White House aide had a reputation as a toxic bully. It appears that since the First Lady’s trip to Africa she has tried to have the aide held accountable, to no avail. If this is accurate her public position on this was appropriate and is exactly what I encourage bystanders to become which is - witnesses, defenders, resisters and activists. To suggest this was a personal fight is misleading. The First Lady came to the defense of those whom the aide bullied.